Monday, December 31, 2012

Today


Today, I was reminded of those of us who wait until things are better, semi good, etc to tell others and to believe—to know-- ‘life is good”.

Today, we are still lacking things—not just things we want, but things we need such as a vehicle, insurance, a steady income, etc

Today, I cried like a baby, while talking to my mama b/c I needed to go to a doctor and was worrying about where the finances for that (and meds) would come from.

Today, I was encouraged by my mama’s words, love and understanding.

Today, I am blessed to have a lover/husband who has loved me for 29 and one half years of marriage and four years of dating.

Today, I am grateful for our sons, though not perfect, they are awesome. They still kiss me and tell me they love me.

Today, I’m thankful for a future daughter in law who loves our son, puts up with his brothers, and ‘fits’ into our family.

Today, I’m appreciative of parents (mother in law included here) who help in any way they can with compassion and love.

Today, I am indebted to family and friends who pray for us on a consistent basis and know that hard times and ‘storms’ do not mean Father God is angry with us or that we are doing anything wrong.

Today, though diagnosed with bronchitis (on top of other health issues) my spirit was healed as Abba whispered, “Have faith, I am here.”

Today, I am wise enough to know, despite it’s problems, difficulties, and trials, life is good—not just any life—MY life.  Yep, my life is good.

 

Monday, December 3, 2012

Youth told to get a job

As I said in my status, this is my opinion/response to something said. You are free to comment as long as you are nice, respectful and not attempting to start a debate.
 
So a few months ago, a youth asked if our boys were going on an upcoming youth trip. My reply was that it was too expensive and that I wish there were things planned that didn't cost money. NOTE: at this point all activities outside of Wed. night and Sundays have had some expense attached. Anyway, a man who was not even in the converstation jumped in, looked at our youngest and pretty much shouted "Get a job!". Really? Another man echoed him. I didn't say anything then because (as those of you who know me understand) it wouldn't have been nice at all. So here's my response. 
 
1) No youth/student should have to get a job in order to be a part of youth/church activities.
 
  2) By the time our youngest arrives home from school, gets what needs to be done here completed, does homework, etc, it's time for bed. Not to mention that he has no  drivers license and would have to be driven to and from any job he might be able to get. He is gone daily from 6:40 a.m until at least 3:40 p.m to school--just to school.  More importantly, no student youth shold have to get a job in order to be part of youth activities.
 
3). The comment was rude, insensative, unchristian, and non compassionate.  Many (MANY) parents and youth are unable to even get a job these days. Some are actually disabled or have a disability that doesn't allow them to 'get a job'.  Maybe it's an invisible disability/illness"--one that can't be seen but is there just the same.  They struggle to just survive.  And just as important, NO youth/student should have to get a job in order to part of youth/church activities
 
4) There are many FREE activities that youth/students can do as well as adults who are willing to help 'brainstorm' and carry through with those activities.  Many are willing to donate items, food, etc.   And just as important, NO youth/student should have to get a job in order to part of youth/church activities.
 
5) Personally, I don't believe churches should charge for any activity they do.  Churches are here to minister, to encourage, to include, to advance the Kingdom, etc, NOT to leave people out because of lack of funds.  And of course, there's the fact that  NO youth/student should have to get a job in order to part of youth/church activities.
 
Note that our church will assist with those youth who can not afford to do activities.   However, aside from the fact I have mentioned many times, there are students who don't want to have to ask for assistance for every activity, they don't want to be the ones who are helped each time (and despite 'discretion' it is always known who gets financial help and who doesn't.  Intentional or not, it's 'spread oround'.)  and again, churches shouldn't be charging money to fellowship, minister, grow spiritually, etc. 
 
A couple of  last thoughts, instead of discouraging our youth (or anyone for that matter), making them uncomfortable or embarrassed, we, as a church, should be encourging, helping, caring, and looking for ways to 'shine'.   Abba desires for us to 'build up', not 'tear down', to help the body, not 'cut them off'.  Money should not be the reason why a youth/student (or again anyone for that matter) is unable to be a part of the body. 

 Why not get the youth/students to put off montly/seasonal activites that are just for them and have them collect things for 'the least of these'? Why not have them be a physical part of taking collected items to others? Why not let them take the focus off themselves and entaining themselves and put the focus on helping others? Why not let them help others who can't just go out and 'get a job'.  Youth are intelligent, creative and willing to 'go'.  Sometimes, they just need a helping hand--we all do.